Discussing sex with your children is very difficult. It is awkward and there's just no way to go about it without that strange feeling of unease. I don't know about other cultures but
Filipinos don't have sex talk as a normal day to day conversation.
Looking back, my parents didn't talk to me about the birds and the bees when I was young. Well, maybe except when my father shouted for me to wear a condom as I was leaving for a date---best talk ever, right? But hey, my parents are traditional folks. They grew up during the time when men and women were prim and proper. In this day and age, dating is almost synonymous to sex (notice I said ALMOST---this is because I would like to believe there are still those who suscribe to the sanctity of sex---a rare breed I should add).
How do we cope with the changing times?
Well, it's sad that
moral fortitude is now a dying virtue. Accountability goes to US parents for not instilling this in our children. However, all is not lost. While it is true that experience is the best teacher---
to fall prey to early pregnancy is too expensive an experience to look forward to. So let us just be pragmatic about the situation.
I have said it many times before
---"WALANG NAGSISISI SA UNA." Our children need to know that engaging in sex early in their lives entails accountabilities. As Newton's Third Law of Motion states that
for every action there is an equal and opposite re-action. Hence, it is important to
THINK before you act.
Unfortunately, boys will be boys.
The male brain can often times be saturated with testosterone that logical function just stop working and the neanderthal within dominates with its animalistic needs. Funny that after 5 minutes the beast within is quelled and suddenly panic ensues with regard to the potential consequence of the deed. But wait...these young ones are internet babies! Information is just a click of a keyboard. So if you can't keep your zipper up at least know what you're doing.
To be forewarned is to be forearmed. If you can't control the beast, at least know how to do it safely. The wiser ones researches on the subject matter of sex like that dastardly Cayote who's chasing the Roadrunner! Obviously, the most convinient birth control method is the Rhythm Method. By merely knowing the before and after window of a woman's mentrual cycle is an opportunity waiting to happen. However, this is good only for women with a regular menstrual cyle. Unfortunately, 25-30% of women have irregular cycles that would render this method useless. Since the beast cannot be contained in a schedule anyway and often times the itch dominates reason---a prophylactic device becomes a handy back up.
Now, wearing a condom can be quite restricting to the wearer simply because it takes off the sensation in the art of copulation (very scientifically stated, don't you agree?). In other words, it's like feeling the texture of the apple with gloves on.
Condoms comes in different...well, if we're talking about pipes---GAUGE. Going back to the glove analogy, there would be the surgical gloves, thermal gloves, mitts---you know where I'm getting at, right? Naturalmente, this is not a favorite option. Other than the sensation issue, procuring a condom can be "diyahe" to do for a young man of barely legal age.
Then there is coistus interruptus---simply put: widrawal. Not unless you have complete physiological control of your seminal excretions I don't suggest this method. This is a disaster waiting to happen. I should know, all my children were made this way! Now do you understand how irrational the urge is when it’s triggered?
When there's an itch you just can't help but scratch it! Have you tried restricting yourself from scratching an itch? Impossible not to do, correct? Same thing with the male sexual appetite! However, the best way to stop a fire is to dose it with water!
I know for a fact how hard it is to control the urge (did I already mention that I have six kids?) but the only way to really dampen the hunger is to think about the potential consequence of the act. Worse case is you'll be an undergrad, unemployed, and unwitting parents to an unborn child. Just imagine what kind of life you'll live or should I say suffer through. I fell prey to this kind of life and I must say that it was a real hard one to live! I was a student by day, a service crew by night, and a budding daddy in between! I was 21. Yes, I managed to live through it but it was a direction not worth epitomizing.
In life, there are two choices---the hard way and the HARDER WAY. Trust me, no one has it easy!
Come to think of it---man and his actions is the instigator to a lot of the disasters in world history. But on top of man’s many disastrous forays is BITING THAT DAMN APPLE! Did you ever wonder what life would have been if Adam did not temp Eve into eating the forbidden fruit? If Eve did not give into the urging of Adam?
Yes, it occurred to me that I may not be in existence if that had happened but I think it is the better choice than me having to write this article.
